Seta (setasplace) wrote in we_want_love,

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Need Serious Help

Hiya everyone,

My name is Katie, and I'm new. This is my first post, and I apologize that it's not a proper introduction. I am in such turmoil I don't know which way to go or what to do. I don't feel strong to stand on my own. I feel codependent and weak. I have been in an abusive online relationship with a young "man" for about to a little over four years now. He lied to me, he cheated on me, he abused me, and he backstabbed me. He continues to do this. Furthermore, when he gets tired of those he chose over me, he tries to run back to me. I am so madly and deeply in love with him that while I KNOW that he must go and be forever out of my life, I give him chances...the last one he broke had provisions with it. Of course he never kept any of his promises in the time we were together. Call me crazy for feeling this strongly about a guy I never saw face to face, touched or spoke to...but he promised so much, and I loved him so much, there was just something about him...

HOW do I get OVER him?!?!?!
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i would try to see if it's love or could be in "love" w/him because you've wanted to so much that you've grown to believe that's what it is. it's a two-way street, tho and if he doesn't feel the same you have to tell yourself that your soul-mate is out there and that he'll find you when you least expect it. so, forget about this guy and get your girls to help u. they probably realize he's not the one, either. good luck!


February 13 2004, 05:57:58 UTC 13 years ago

I can't tell you how to get over him because being in love is hard, but I hope you find a way to give yourself a chance to love someone new. What you described above is NOT love. That is something else. Love is wonderful.
It sounds like this guy really hurt you. I had a boyfriend who had been a close friend of mine for 2 years before we started dating. I really thought I was in love with him, then I found out that when I'd go to work at night he was sleeping with my roommate. We broke up and he continued to see her, he was in and out of my house all the time. Finally I made their lives so uncomfortable that my roommate moved out. My point is everyone gets betrayed sometimes. You want some good news? After a couple months of feeling devastated and betrayed, I got over it. I am currently with an amazing man who cherishes and treats me the way I deserve to be treated. We're getting engaged in January. In him I found the love of my life. That other guy was a drug dealing loser who had no job and no future and didn't respect himself enough to respect anyone else. If this guy didn't appreciate you it is his loss not yours. It seems like you have alot of love to give, you deserve someone who appreciates it. Another word of advice get out in the world and enjoy yourself the right person will come along. People on the computer can lie. Screw internet love. The right man for you may be just outside you're door. Appreciate yourself, adore yourself and other people will too. When you find the one you will know, because he will love you without youhaving to ask him to no matter what. Good luck! Stay strong. Do not waste your precious love on someone who doesn't know the meaning of it. There's a whole world of people out there. You are not alone.
I was surfing through communities, I'm going through the exact same thing. *hugs* I know how it feels, hun.